How Well Do You and Your Significant Other Communicate?

By: Zoe Samuel
Estimated Completion Time
6 min
How Well Do You and Your Significant Other Communicate?
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About This Quiz

Some couples fight a lot, getting off on the drama, others simmer quietly, yet others talk it out - and often the same folks handle the good stuff the same way. How well are you and your boo communicating?
Do you know when they need to be on their own for a while?
Of course!
Usually
If they tell me, sure
No

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Can you order for each other in restaurants and usually choose something they'll like?
About 90% of the time, yes
We always discuss it
About half the time
No, they just change a lot

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Do you apologize easily to each other?
Sure, if I hurt my boo I say sorry immediately
Yes, of course
Yes, if I did something wrong
Honestly no, only kind of reluctantly

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Do you avoid the tough conversations?
No, they just get worse
Only rarely
Yes, more than we should
We have literally never had one

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Do you have secret codes to use at parties to signal you're ready to leave and similar things?
Yes, dozens
Yes, one or two
No, but we totally should!
No, that's weird

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Do you have a thousand in-jokes between you?
Yes, an outsider would not understand us if they heard us
Yes, but we are still comprehensible to others
We have our fair share
Not really

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Can you make them laugh just by reminding them of that time you did that thing and it was hilarious?
OMG, that thing was so funny
Which thing? Oh right! That thing!
Which thing? Oh, I thought you meant that other thing and was all, that other thing wasn't funny.
No, I wish

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Do you know what makes them tick in bed?
Survey says yes, but we communicate all the time about that just in case
Mostly, yes
God I hope so, but I'm so nervous about asking
I fear they fake every orgasm they apparently have

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Do you laugh together at least once a day?
Just once?
Yes, about once
When we can, sure
No - why, is that normal? Wow.

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Do you barely even notice that weird mark on their hip any more?
What mark?
I see it but I am fine with it, it's not a flaw to me
I see it and it's weird but I try to ignore it
I really want them to get it removed

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When they talk in their sleep, do you know what to say to reassure them?
Of course, I soothe them without even waking them
I just wake them up and soothe them back to sleep
No, I make it worse
I wouldn't even try to handle that

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Do you often hold hands when you walk together?
Yes, when we both want to
Yes, most of the time
Sometimes
No, we're not 15

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How about walking perfectly in step?
It just happens sometimes
It happens when I wear certain shoes
It happened once
I don't know, I never notice

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Do you know it's them calling before you check the caller ID?
No, I'm not psychic
Yes, it's spooky
Yes, if I am expecting their call
No, that'd be weird

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Do you have a host of nicknames for each other, each one sillier than the last?
Last count was more than 10
We have two or three
We have one
We just use, "Darling" or "Honey"

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Do you have their favorite Netflix show queued up and ready before they walk in the door?
I think you mean OUR favorite show
I sure do!
Wow, that sounds like some high level relationshipping
No, I don't know what they like

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If you're stressed out, are they the first person you talk to?
Not always, because it's not healthy to put all your needs on your partner, so it's context specific
Usually yes
Sometimes
No, they don't like me when I am stressed

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Do you feel like they can say it all with a hug sometimes?
Many times, yes
Most of the time
Sometimes
No

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Is their smile so infectious for you now that it's basically a happy yawn?
Yeah, if they smile, I smile
Sort of - if they smile, I feel goo
If they smile, I ask what's so funny or nice
If they smile, and I notice - which is rare - then I sometimes fear they are laughing at me

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Do you know how to tell them their outfit sucks without upsetting them?
Yes, they know I am doing it to be nice
Mostly
No, I usually get it wrong
Not possible

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Would you give them notes on their screenplay and still be friends after?
I have many times, they appreciate my input
Of course, though sometimes they feel like I'm changing their idea
I don't know how to give notes like that
I wouldn't read it even if they would let me

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If you saw they had left their email open, would you read it?
I might click on one or two but I know what's up with them so there are no surprises - they wouldn't mind
I would not, that's rude and they would be mad, so I'd confess
I would, but I would feel bad and lie about it
Yes, please help me to understand them!

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Do you know their passwords?
Yes, we share many accounts
I know where to find them in an emergency
No, I wish I did
No, I don't even have a key to their place

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Do you trust them with your money?
Yes, we have a joint account
Yes, though we keep separate accounts
No, that's too risky
Heck no!

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Do they know which of your relatives you can't stand?
Yes, we agree which ones suck too
Yes, fortunately they like my sucky relatives
They don't know, I have to remind them all the time
They think it is bad of me to dislike a relative

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Better yet, do they hang with those relatives at family events, so you don't have to?
Of course, they call it "Jumping on the Aunt Philippa bomb"
Yes, we tag team
Wow, that'd be so great, but no
They make me hang with them to learn to like them

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Do you two often make a mountain out of a molehill?
No, you gotta keep the main thing the main thing
We do once in a while
We do more than we should, but we are working on it
They do, I'm just being reasonable - of course

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Have you had the same fight more than once?
Not any more
Yes, there's a couple of recurring features
We are basically having the same four fights again and again with different versions
We don't, because if something is that toxic, it's not safe to mention it EVER AGAIN

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Have you ever asked them to help you with a big goal like losing weight or gaining a new qualification?
Of course, that's the point of a partner
Once in a while, yes
No, I don't want to be needy
No, they wouldn't be much of a help

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If you wrote down five things you love about them, and vice versa, would you guess each other's answers correctly?
We tried this and yes, we would
We'd probably get four
We would get two or three
I wouldn't even try, it'd be too depressing

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